Comments on: How Would You Handle Joseph Dills?

By: Max The Cat

Max The Cat — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 03:52:20 +0000

I’m sorry to hear about all your troubles Mrs. Dills. Unfortunately you appear to be getting the typical treatment most people get from every State’s DCF. No one who works there really wants to do their jobs, everyone complains about being overworked and underpaid, and nothing really happens until a child dies, disappears or kills someone. It’s sad, really, that so few DCF employees treat their job like the calling that it truly is. Joseph appears to have been a victim all his life, a victim of his mother, a victim of a piss-poor heath care system, and now a victim of a child welfare system that has wiped all the humanity from the process.

I can only imagine your frustration, and I wish I had some answers for you. All we can offer you is a place to vent your anger, and a bunch of people who are very sympathetic to what you and your husband, and Joseph as well, are going through.

By: Bunnie Dills

Bunnie Dills — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 02:48:33 +0000

Yes im the step-mother of this child who stared having problems at a very young age… his mother took him and his brother and ran with them for 4 1/2 years telling lies as she went saying she was hiding from TOM their father because of domsetic abuse…. but in truth she was the one with the records for all of the abuse battery.. since this blogg started the STATE of Florida DCF and Brevard CBC.. Have given Joseph back to the abusive Mother Karen… since 2008 he has been arrested 3 times for abuse to others. Nov. 25 he and his stepfather got into a fight and Joseph stabbed Pat with a bathroom Doorhandle, Pat hit Joseph with a skillet. Florida DCF has contacted US about Joseph telling us he has been acting out and and Tom had to go to court thanksgiving morning to a hearing about Joseph being taken from his unfit mother….. well we told them she was unfit and so did the court papers we had from an orange county court Judge who ordered supervised visits for Karen and Joseph only…. But Florida DCF didnt Listen then either and gave the child back to that mentally ill woman.. whats it going to take JOSEPH DILLS to actually KILL someone Before they listen to the Father & Stepmother of this child .. He needs help longterm help…Our insurance paid all they would.. thats why we signed over Joseph to the Florida DCF becaues they said they would get him HELP… Please if anyone out there can help let us KNOW!!!!!!

By: ferrets

ferrets — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:46:39 +0000

I am curious about the bio mother that was mentioned by dad’s employer in an earlier posting, what kind of abuse did she put the kids through and what are her mental issues, if we knew more about her maybe it would show an inherited chemical imbalance or condition such as bi-polar which could possibly be treated. Dad does not deserve jail at all, and the kid is going to need a lot more help than a parent could give him, maybe a secure group home or a Boys Town environment

By: min_duhh

min_duhh — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:10:36 +0000

I remember when I was about 16 and my younger brother was 12. He pulled the fire alarm at school and that set in motion a string of events that weren’t especially nice. He had to get counseling and our family was evaluated. My brothers physician said he was severely ADHD and needed immediate medicating- my dad refused and said that his problems weren’t so bad that a good old fashioned ass whoopin wouldn’t set him straight. We were never spanked ever- but just the thought that it could happen was enough to scare my brother to behave. I know this isn’t appropriate for this case, but my dad made a good point when he said there weren’t so many out of control kids back in his day when parents ran the house and punishments were doled out accordingly. In these days where a child would dare call 911 on their parents falsely, I don’t think there is a right answer because, honestly, you’re damned if you and you’re damned if you dont.

By: April

April — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 23:49:02 +0000

I personally would find out information about a boot camp of some sort. The father shouldn’t be charged in my opinion. My husbands step brother was scratch that, is a psychopath. He abused my husband daily when they were growing up, and his parents didn’t believe him, didn’t think he could do the things my hubby said. His step brother knows what to say, and how to say it in any situation. He is a lying, cheating, stealing and manipulative asshole. He has a 5 year old son he’s only seen probably a total of 10 times, none of which have been in the last 4 years. Brandon has been in and out of jail, used to hit my husband “jokingly” even as to slicing his arm with a machete (as adults). We had to live with him for about 5 months, and it was terrible. Jail seemed to be the only thing that would set him straight but only temporarily. I really think if he does hard time that it could set him straight. I think this boy needs to be locked up for awhile to understand the privilege of being “free”. He might even need tranqs to help him who knows. sad fucked up situation here.

By: Kathybird

Kathybird — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 23:19:12 +0000

I think it is very sad for the parents to be facing the guilt they are most likely facing of failing their son in some way. I couldn’t even imagine the heart-wrenching feelings they flip flop between. On one hand, you want to love your child, no matter what they do. On the other, you wish he was never born or you did something differently.
What I find VERY interesting about this story is how we all sit here now and sympathize with the ordeal the parents must be going through. If this story didn’t exist, and we never heard of Joseph Dills until a few years from now, AFTER he went on a murder spree and brutally wiped out half of a college campus’ female student body, but only after sexually abusing them in ways unimaginable to most, we would be sitting here wondering how horrid his parents must have been when he was a child. What atrocious beatings they must have inflicted on him during his innocent youth and/or the mental abuse he must have suffered. We probably would assume that some Uncle or priest must have forced him into devient, sexual acts. If his family members came on here and professed their condolences to their sons victims, we’d tell them to rot in hell for their part in creating an evil monster and that they don’t deserve anyone’s forgiveness. Think about it, most people would. We always seem to think the evil is rooted in the raising of the child – and most times it is. I just thought that I would point this out to everyone. You can disagree if you’d like, but it’s people like this that always make me feel some compasion for the “bad guys” side. I don’t believe that all monsters are created, some are just born.
This family is lucky about one thing. They are strong enough to turn on their son now, in the hopes that help will be found for him. In 10 years from now, they will have proof that they tried.

By: dani

dani — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 21:26:24 +0000

my brother was like that, threatened to slit my step-sisters throats with a butcher knife and told the cops that they couldnt do a damn thing to him. my brother has been in juvie, counseling, kicked out of school, robbed stores, and has no remorse. sometimes there is no fixing children, especially when its biologically passed down (our mom is a sociopath and our dad is bipolar: i was called passive-aggressive) . its better for the parents and other children if he is not around until he learns to control himself. my brother is better, but has distanced himself from most of the family. my mother attempted to get him help but the first juvenile facility she took him to said they wouldnt take him until he hurt himself or someone else

By: Allah Fubar

Allah Fubar — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 05:04:53 +0000

What about a good old fashion biblical stoning?

Ever see Die Hard 3? Dress that kid up in an “I hate n*****s” shirt and kick his ass out of the car in Harlem or Compton.

Or Safe Haven this little bastard at the nearest hospital.

you know guys, sometimes it’s VERY hard to approve certain comments, but i’m learning what freedom of speech really means and why it’s such a precious thing. more than ever, i would lay my life down for this simple concept, even if it means i’m laying it down for the likes of allah fubar. maybe if he thought of that, and all the men and women who have already given their lives, it wouldn’t be so easy for him to drop the word n****r everywhere just because he thinks it’s funny.

-editor