It was not your place to give ANY 13 year old a ‘dose’ of her own medicine.

You SHOULD have taken the adult route and cut off your daughter’s dayum internet access which is what MOST of us reasonable and responsible parents would have done if you felt she was being unduly bothered and didn’t know how to handle herself and were concerned that this girl kept communicating with her via internet…NOBODY wins when this shat escalates…and eventually virtually all of it is forgotten by kids this age over time as they learn to fight their own battles…and they NEED to learn to fight their own battles…otherwise, you rob them of their OWN self esteem and initiative.

Your own actions to protect your daughter may be the very type of over controlling and manipulative behavior that are causing the very symptoms for which she was being picked on in the first place. I myself was an obese and depressed teenager and it has taken me YEARS to get my self-esteem back from my own mother who could not let me do ANYTHING without her well meaning but constant criticism and ’showing’ me the ‘RIGHT’ way to do things…to this day I still cannot even load a dishwasher ‘right”’…she goes back and readjusts the positioning of the dishes…as well as pointing out to me repeatedly that I was getting too fat…children, teenagers, are not idiots. They don’t need YOU or any other adult to point out the most obvious things to them. They KNOW they are fat…they just don’t know how NOT to be. Unless you are asked and you have a reasonable and healthy solution, just shut up about it. Maybe you should look at yourself and see the role you are modeling for her instead of empowering her to see herself as a capable person.

You became involved in a teenage drama and literally exacerbated it. Feeling ‘entitled’ because your own daughter was being picked on and getting in the middle of it in such an underhanded way was simply…irresponsible, as well as supremely ignorant.

Teenagers DO talk about each other. It’s one thing for them to do it amongst themselves…and a totally different animal when another adult with years of experience in manipulating becomes deliberately involved with the sole intent of ‘teaching’ a 13 year old a lesson.

There is a limited amount of control any of us have over our own children let alone someone else’s. Children with special needs can be difficult…I should know…I have one. Not all of them are capable of having the social insight to see the error of their ways and some of them are clinically paranoid and ’see’ things in the behavior of other people that are either not there or they magnify them in their own minds. You were dealing with an immature child that had some psychiatric issues. You ASSUMED that her parents were not adequately ‘disciplining’ her…it has not apparently occurred to you that her parents were doing the best THEY knew how to do….You should have been the adult in this situation; and not become the ”judge’ masquerading as another child in order to inflict a ‘lesson’ you felt you were otherwise unable to teach her and ‘needed’ to teach her. Go look a little closer at yourself in the mirror.

I don’t wish you to rot in hell.

I do, however, expect that G-d will deal with your heart and introduce a personal trial in your life such as Megan’s psychiatric issues with someone that YOU dearly love and feel utterly powerless to control…for a time…a long enough time, until you gain wisdom…so that you can see what it is like to be on the other side of the fence.

It’s called Karma.

The good book basically SAYS that laws were made for the unjust…not the just, which keep them naturally.

The only reason we HAVE a reasonably safe society and democracy here is BECAUSE overall, as a society, we respect the law. BECAUSE when someone harms us or our families; we have a legal way of redressing it through our court system.

There will always be those that are willing to consciously or unconsciously harm others….with or without a ‘law’ in place…however, by having a legal standard we make it possible for the victims to more easily seek redress without being tempted to take revenge into their own hands.

Our laws and our judicial system are WHY we do not have to have posses anymore in our society.

Just because something is not clearly ‘illegal’ does not make it right; nor does it preclude private individuals from pursuing civil suits that may initiate legal precedents from which later similar cases will be judged. Though it is much more costly to pursue a private civil suit rather than have a society supported District Attorney to pursue a criminal charge; only those with financial means tend to pursue civil suits.

For the rest of us, criminal law MUST keep pace with the daily realities that we are living and the sorts of threats we may be facing from others if we are going to continue to respect that law as individuals and society and not be tempted to enact our own private revenge.

We, the ‘adults’ in the world, are the ones responsible for guiding our children and being their role models. I can think of a thousand more functional things that she could have done including counseling these children instead of adding to the drama and ‘teaching’ her child the methods of manipulation and bullying. Our society is in a sad state when THIS is how ‘leaders’ in our community teach their children to get ahead.

I am with the guy that said had Megan been his daughter he would have taken a hockey stick to Drew. I concur; had this happened to my child I am not sure that I would have had the self control to pursue the legal route that the Meiers have; and I commend them for their self control. Drew appears to be so naive and ‘entitled’ from an easy middle class life as not to realize how incredibly lucky she IS that this child didn’t come from a different family, or she could have easily found herself not breathing long enough to make it to court.

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